YOU are the SUCCESS behind YOU
Here are some useful motivational leadership thoughts by Sajeev Nair
These are some of the words you must have come across so many times in your life if you try to read any book on success or if you attend any success seminars. These words are all exciting and carries tons of weight. These words have transformed the lives of millions of people around the globe. You will come across with these words in this book also. But none of them guarantee success, as success can be granted only if you practice those words. However I am sure you are one among the very few people in the world who has taken a decision to become successful in life and you are motivated towards it. You may be wondering, how do I know about it. Simple, the very reason that you are reading this book proves that you are searching for success. Hence my hearty CONGRATULATIONS on your taking the first step to become successful in life; ie the decision to become successful.
I have taken part with many motivational sessions covering lakhs of people. I still do it. After the sessions I have received unbelievable feedbacks about the session, “this was an unbelievable session,” “I have got totally charged up,” “Your session has changed my life,” “What a magical spell,” etc. But the sad thing is that only very few ever make a significant difference in their life after attending the session. The rest of them forget about the session in two to three weeks time. I have heard and read so many trainers and authors making claims like, “who ever have attended my sessions, have changed their life in a massive positive way,” “whoever have read my books have taken a 180 Degree U-Turn in their life and started moving towards success.” I am sorry to state that I don't believe in these kinds of statements. I don’t think any speaker can motivate his audience to take some solid decisions and move on to become successful; no author can motivate his/her readers to take a life changing decision and move towards massive success in life. At the same time I am not making a statement that all trainers and authors are ineffective. I still believe that the motivational trainers and authors have helped millions of people to change their life in a positive direction. I, myself, am a typical example. Whatever I have achieved in my life during the last 10 years, I heavily owe it to the training programs I attended and the books I read. Thanks to a very strong Life Changing Education System associated with Amway, where you get guidance on what kind of books to read and what kind of training programs could make a difference in your life.
Even I get so many strong positive feedbacks on the articles I do in Magazines like, “these articles have opened my eyes,” “I am now experiencing a whole new perspective towards life,” I am getting better results in life as my attitude towards people have changed after reading your columns,” etc. These trainers and authors have definitely helped a lot of people to change their course of travel and achieve better results in life. My point was, not every one makes those positive changes in their life after reading a book or reading such articles or after attending motivational training. Had it been solely the effectiveness of the trainer or the author everyone should have made significant positive results in their life. That means, how good a trainer you be, how good an author you be, you cannot motivate everyone.
Why is it so? The basic rule I believe in is, “Nobody can motivate anybody.” Why? Because, motivation is internal. It is within. It has to come from within. A trainer or author only can Inspire others to get motivated. They cannot get inside their mind and work within their mind. In short an effective trainer or author can only inspire others to get motivated. But only very few ever get motivated. Do you know why? Do you have any idea who may be the people who gets motivated?
The Motivation is formed from the word ‘MOTIVE’. Motive means aim, goal, Your intention in life. Hence motivated means driven towards a motive. If there is no motive there is no motivation. And that no one can build or create a motive for you. Hence you need to find what is your motive, what do you want to accomplish in your life, in which way you want your life to be designed, what is your intention I your life etc
Most of the people, who had failed in business or life, never had any idea what they wanted to accomplish in their life. I was doing a Key Note address to the Premium Account Holders of one of the leading banks in Kerala. Premium Account Holders means ‘those who have taken the maximum amount of loan” or “those who are in big time debt”. I had about 120 businessman sitting in front of me. I asked them a question, what is your vision in life? No one answered voluntarily. Then I picked one gentleman and repeated the question, “what is your vision for your business?” He replied in a sarcastic tone “Vision? What is that?” I said, “In simple terms, why are you doing the business which you are doing now?” Answer was spontaneous, “To pay off bank debts.” Everyone laughed, but I think most of the businessmen are in the same stage. When one starts a business he starts with a lot of hope and lot of ideas and excitement; but over a period of time he loses focus by fighting with the day to day challenges. It reaches a level where the business becomes an inevitable evil; you cannot run it because you have no resources, you cannot close it because your money, which is there in the market will never come back. What is the way out?
Where do you want to reach?
If you don’t know where you are going, you can go anywhere; it is not going to make any difference. Most of the people in the world have no clue what they want to accomplish in their life. Right now stop reading this article and ask yourself a question, What I want to get out of my life? If you dont have an immediate answer, dont worry, you are not alone. You have got almost 95% of the entire world population with you. That is why it is being found that only 5% of the people any industry or field, ever become really successful. It is the same reason for the most profound challenge the world faces today, which many politicians and sociologists have been trying to correct; 95% of the wealth is with 5% of the people and the rest 5% of the wealth is with the 95% of the people. Even after working for centuries no politico- socio- economic system could change this scenario.
Knowing what exactly one needs to accomplish is a critical factor in business or any entrepreneurial ventures or even for one achieve success in life. Even an employee needs to have some clear goals in his/her life. But in entrepreneurship it is not just important; but it is critical. Because in employment, even if you don’t have any goals, still you have to fit into someone else’s goalie your superior officers goal. It is a very famous and meaningful statement, which made me really think when I was an employee, ‘If you don’t have a plan, you will ft into someone else’s plan.’ Think about it. Most of the people in the world always get fit into someone else’s plan as they don’t have any plans for themselves. They get frustrated in life as they know that they are working as per the plan of someone else; still they don’t think of making their own plans. They generally make statements like, ‘I am happy where I am,’ ‘I am not very ambitious,’ I don’t consider as the most important factor in my life,’ ‘ I believe in the principle of live within your means,’ etc. But internally they are frustrated, they are searching for options to make fast money through some illegal schemes, Jealous about people who are wealthy and happy. Here the question comes, why people are hesitant to make their own plan? Why they are not getting some goals in their life?